Lack of Concentration and Focus-I

It was quite a tiresome week and failed to practice my 10 Minutes of meditation daily, but found some simple key factors that disrupt my concentration unknowingly but willingly, the main things were

1.      Television (Remedy: I have asked the cable TV guy to disconnect the connection from this month

2.      Face Book (Remedy: Took a resolution not to open the Face Book except when I would be in rest room)  

3.      Lying Down Simply (Remedy: Try to schedule your day by having some new tasks to be done daily whenever I get time to lie down - Like reading self-improvement books, working and trying to improve on my preferred interest’s like photography, creativity on simple things, etc...)

I think all the above three points are the major (Time & Concentration) looters in the whole 24hrs I have in a day. It may differ in others life but will resemble something closely to the above three which is looting your (Time & Concentration).

Valuation of time really matters when it comes to “Concentration & Focus” Why?

Here is what I found!

When we start utilizing our time for aspects that doesn’t benefit us on our growth progress (unless you consciously realize what you are doing is useless), we train our “Brain-Sub-Conscious” to be idle on something which keeps us away from the reality.

What is the reality you are in?

1.      Have to complete my home work

2.      Have to complete my Practical Record work

3.      Have to complete revising the  portions before my exams

4.      Have to learn new functionalities or modules which will help me in this new project

5.      Have to Read documentations related to my job which will help me decide things better

6.      Have to reduce my body weight

7.      Have to learn new concepts

The above are some of the examples of things which are in the reality, what requires our attention and time.

Then why do we deviate or get distracted from all these and do things which is no way near in helping to complete any of my reality task and we do what we like to do!

 

Just watching Television, Just Lying on the bed, Just Playing Video Games for hours to gather,

 just chatting with friends about useless subjects this is how your sub-conscious mind consoles

 your conscious mind using the word “JUST” and it knows very well to advocate your conscious

 mind and you have started to train your sub-conscious mind even before you were born.

Ok now let’s concentrate on “Was Sub-Conscious mind pre-programmed with what it likes and what it dis-likes”

To an extent YES!

There are some likes which are pre-programmed within your sub-conscious mind which has travelled through your Gene, but none of those can influence over your conscious mind. No one knows the extent or depth of the pre-programming that is imprinted with every individual’s sub-conscious mind.

But most of the Pre-Programming that comes with your Sub-Conscious can be over-ruled by your conscious mind through practice which will re-write the Gene that will be transferred to your offspring, if this was not a fact still we would have been “Animals” in nature.

Now we will concentrate only on the other factor(rather than Pre-Programming) that influences our Sub-Conscious mind with the Likes and Dis-Like those are related to our productiveness.

Some of the other factors are (Surroundings, Parents, Relations, Friends, Teacher, School, College, Company you work with, the girl you loved the most, etc…)

Your mind will be Calm, Quiet, Peaceful, Happy and Enlighten when you are in solitude. (It’s a Proven Fact)

Why So?

It’s the nature of the human mind to stay happy when it’s left to do what it wants to

When you are not in solitude, it means by some way your thought are influenced and cannot be free as it was when you were in solitude and starts to behave restricted, because you cannot be who you are? In presence of another human and you will have to behave with social responsibility all of a sudden. This social responsibility was not crafted for you which may suit your thoughts and behavior, an simple thing “If shouting loudly to the sky makes you feel happy and relieved” you cannot do that as you wish when you are at social places.

So what happens here? Your Society puts an indirect pressure in you sub-conscious mid or in-direct image in your sub-conscious mind stating that you are free & happy only when you are alone with no human nearby.                

Now think the way around!

If the nature of the human mind will be happy, only when it has got a company of another human.

When you are in solitude you cannot feel the happiness, as when you were with company. Your sub-conscious mind will behave restricted and abnormal because you cannot be who you are? As your mind seeks company to be complete and will be happy only in the presence of another human.

This is a very basic behavior of your sub-conscious mind. Your Sub-Conscious mind gives you the happy feeling when you do things in the way it likes it!

So here comes the fact!

To stay happy! do whatever your sub-conscious mind loves or train your sub-conscious mind to love whatever you do!

Here is where we have failed for so many years until now!

From the child hood until now, no one is bothered to understand what you love! You are fed with things what others love Or They think it’s the best for you and they did not teach you, how to? Love the subjects you were thought about.

Most of them did not know how to present a concept in the way our sub-conscious mind would have loved to understand it.

That’s the reason some kids are bright in some subject, it’s not that they are weak in other subjects it’s because their sub-conscious mind was not interested with other subjects.

So what does the sub-conscious mind do when it’s not interested in a concept? It just distracts our mind with the thoughts and information that we are interested with, this is called as the “Lack of Concentration”. This is what that makes you think about rain forest when you are in middle of a Math class.

This is what is happening to me right now!

As I don’t do much of the things my Sub-Conscious mind loves, it brings in the next least favorite unproductive things like watching TV, Browsing on the Internet and Lying down simply - even though my sub-conscious mind do not love to do all these things but it finds these least possible things to keep me engaged and make me feel better than to get engaged in any of the  “Productive” activity which my Sub-Conscious mind does not like for so many accumulated reasons that its has learnt so far.

Hence I will have to find a way to teach my Subconscious mind to love the things that I will have to do, in order to be productive. Unless I find a positive way to train my sub-conscious mind to love the things what I have to do, all my efforts to rectify would go in vain.

Why is this?

As always we have a habit of associating productive work with our job or Reading any kind of books with studying,  knowingly or unknowingly!, here is where a complex illusion is created in our sub-conscious mind which depicts that whenever you do something productive even though it is not related to your Job or you read any self-improvement book even though its nothing related to any of your degree programs, your sub-conscious keeps on putting a pressure in your mind which gives a tiresome feeling and pushes you to exit what you are doing with the “comfort zone activity”.   This later on pushes us to be in the comfort zone most of the time even though you are at work!

I have decided to abandon the above said three habits and will be testifying myself to see if these changes would really matter on my (Lack Of Concentration & Focus).

Will keep this blog posted.

Thanks & Regards,

S.Grace Paul Regan

Lack of Concentration and Focus

In the resent past days, I am struggling much due to lack of concentration and focus on the tasks I need to concentrate, restless ness, arrogance, anger and pointing attitude.

I know I need to concentrate --> (whenever I hit my consciousness), but still my conscious advisory thought stays for just minutes or some time an hour barely.

I don’t know what the problem with me is, and then I decided to work on this issue. I wanted to identify the potential reasons that block my concentration.

I know it’s my sub-conscious mind that drags me across its wandering thoughts, and then I started to research this issue where I came across many reasoning given by different people across the globe. It’s not me alone who struggles with this concentration issue its 99 out of 100 have the same issue but the magnitude differs.

But yet I cannot go compromising myself that it’s not a problem to worry, Still I need what I wanted !, I shouldn’t give up, if so I did then; I will have to stay with this problem for ever which will become a threat for my future carrier growth. So I decided to work this out by myself, I believe on having some reasonable understanding over sub-conscious mind and conscious mind.

So let me start to work on my sub-conscious mind starting from Today (20-November-2012), I have started to research on this issue, I don’t know how soon I can overcome this issue by myself but for sure I know, I will! And can! On the progress I will keep this blog posted with the methods that I will follow to overcome this issue in practical.

To start with I have decided to meditate at least for 10 Minutes a day without fail for a week then will increase the time, I will focus on biblical teachings one verse a day as a point out of me to focus while I mediate.
 
Thanks & Regards,
S.Grace Paul Regan

Failure Is Never Final

"But he said to me, 'My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.' Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ's power may rest on me. - "2 Corinthians 12:9


In December 1—or any other day of the year—may have been the day you lost your job, or the day youfailed a major final exam; but remember, as difficult as it was, December 2 was the first day of the rest of your life. It was a day of newbeginnings. So, if you have suffered a major loss or setback, and haven't done your grieving, be sure to do it now. It may not be easy, and it willtake time, but it is tremendously important that you face, accept, and resolve your pain; learn to get up even if you have to drag yourself up, and goon. The following suggestions will help you to do this effectively:
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Develop the right attitude. Attitude is what makes thedifference between a painful experience becoming a failure or a success. You can let the loss leave you timid and afraid to step out again for fear of beinghurt, or you can determine that your failure will be your teacher. As William James said, "The greatest discovery of my generation is that a human being can alter his life by altering his attitude."

Use your failures/losses to enrich your life. True, we all need mountain top experiences from time to time to encourage us, but we don't grow through these.  It is in the valley of disappointment and through ourfailures/losses that we are given the opportunity to take stock of our life and move toward a new dimension of life, and toward a greater level of growth and maturity.
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Know what your purpose in life is. The more clearly defined that your life purpose is—and the more deeply it is embedded in your unconscious mind—the less likely it will be that disappointments and failures will set you back.

A spacecraft en route to the moon is off course 90 percent of the time. It is constantly pulled back by the earth's gravity, and is continually drawn to one side or the other by other forces. But it has a built-in computer that has a singleness of purpose that homes in on the moon. The computer is making continual corrections to keep the spacecraft on target with its purpose and goal.
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Life's like that. If your eye is on your goal, if you have a singleness of purpose, nothing will stop you getting to where you plan and choose to go.
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Remember that failure or disappointment is an event,not a person. Because you may have failed in your marriage or job, in another relationship, or other situation, doesn't mean that you are a failure as a person. Not at all. Realize that the only real failure is not to try, or not to keep on trying, or not to get up one more time than you fall or get knocked down. The important thing is to learn from your past, invest it as an opportunity to grow, and to move ahead.

Give God a chance. If you feel as if you have failed or believe you've done wrong, ask God to forgive you—and be sure to forgive yourself. Then turn your failure into a stepping-stone toward a better you.

Where a bone is broken and heals, it becomes the strongest part of the bone. The same is true of your broken places—where you have been hurt, have fallen and failed, or are afraid. When you bring these to God for his healing, his strength is made perfect through your weakness.
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Prayer: "Our Loving heavenly Father, no matter what setback happens to me, whether it is my fault or that of another, please help me not to become bitter but better by using it as an opportunity to help me to grow and become the person you envision for me to be. Thank you for hearing and answering my prayer.  Gratefully, In Jesus Loving Name I Pray, Amen."

May God Bless you all.

Thanks & Regards,
S.Grace Paul Regan

The Problem Is “Never" the Problem !

"A man who refuses to admit his mistakes can never be successful. But if he confesses and forsakes them, hegets another chance." - Proverbs 28:13.

In teaching classes and counseling hurting people I often remind them that the problem is never the problem and the pain we feel is not the pain that is.
This usually takes a while to sink in.

In most difficulties and conflicts what we see is the presenting problem which, more often than not, is the symptom of a deeper problem or "the fruit of a deeper root."

As someone else said, "When we have unresolved problems/issues, God is merciful in that he gives us symptoms." Relational conflicts, anxiety, insomnia, depression, addictions, spiritual dryness, physical ills, and any of a score of other symptoms can be caused or greatly aggravated by unresolved guilt over past unconfessed sins, a deeply buried resentment and a failure to forgive someone from a past hurt, unresolved grief from the loss of a love, or rebelling against the will of God, etc., etc. The roots of some of these issues can go all the way back to early childhood. All need to be confronted and resolved if we are to fully live and fully love, and maintain sound physical, emotional, relational, and spiritual well-being.

Furthermore, many of our physical symptoms can be symbolic. Some ulcers, for example, are not caused so much by what we eat but by what is eating us. Tension headaches can be from jamming up anger in our head.
Aching shoulders may be caused by feeling under a heavy load and so on. And if I have a pain in the neck … I may be one, or have someone or some situation in my life that I feel is a pain in the neck!

Tracing symptoms to their causes and resolving these opens the door for healing and recovery. If we don't connect to and resolve the original pain that is the root cause of our symptoms, we will suffer the ongoing pain of the symptoms. This is what I mean by saying, "The pain we feel is not the pain that is."


After David confessed his sin, he said, "What happiness for those whose guilt has been forgiven! What relief for those who have confessed their sins and God has cleared their record. There was a time when I wouldn't admit what a sinner I was. But my dishonesty made me miserable and filled my days with frustration. All day and all night your hand was heavy on me. My strength evaporated like water on a sunny day until I finally admitted all my sins to you and stopped trying to hide them. I said to myself, 'I will confess them to the Lord.' And you forgave me! All my guilt is gone." - Psalm 32:1-5

David gives us an excellent example to follow.

Thanks & Regards,
S.Grace Paul Regan